Good evening readers,
tonight am gonna be talking about "UGLINESS & BEAUTY IN RELATION TO YOUR JOB"
Like beauty, "ugly" is in the eyes of the beholder. It's also
something you can use to your advantage in the workplace.
MARTY NEMKO, a contributing columnist for Kiplinger and also a renowed
Career Coach once wrote
"For me it's my hair, or lack thereof. Many years ago, I was all set
to appear six times on a daytime-TV talk show.
But the producers first had one suggestion: Get a hairpiece.
"Market research indicates that a man with a full head of hair is much
more likely to be watched by women (the show's target audience)," I
was told. So I got one.
Wearing the hairpiece helped me realize the power of looks.
After we taped my six segments (in one day), I wore it for a couple
more days to see what impact it had. While I was in an executive's
waiting room, I overheard someone whisper to the secretary about me,
"He seems really important." I'd never heard anyone say anything
remotely like that about me before. I walked into a burrito shop and,
for the first time in my life, the hottie behind the counter actually
flirted with me -- flipped her hair back, twirled her curls and made
conversation with me beyond "May I take your order?" Later, when I
wore the hairpiece for a play I was in, some friends of mine didn't
recognize me on stage.
If you're unattractive in face or body, you probably learned early on
that you pay a price.
In school, you were excluded from the "in" group.
When you wanted to date, few people were interested. On the street,
people look not at you but past you.
And they look past you in your career. In a job interview, you may
have experienced an interviewer's flat affect and forced smile rather
than a warm welcome that would have put you at ease. Once hired, you
may have cringed as The Pretty People often got more than they may
have deserved, based on merit alone.
And that's the ugly truth.
Advice for Employees and the Self-Employed
Being unattractive isn't three strikes against you. If it were, the
likes of Eleanor Roosevelt, Woody Allen, Ruth Bader Ginsberg, Alfred
Hitchcock and Kathy Bates wouldn't have succeeded. Lackluster looks
are only one strike. It's up to you whether you become dispirited or
motivated to make the extra effort needed to succeed.
Don't skimp on self-development. If you have mediocre skills, that's
strike two.
Add a mediocre personality, and it's usually strike three and you're
out. So self-development, while important for everyone, is crucial for
you.
Instead of watching TV on the treadmill, read a professional magazine.
Instead of loafing around on Saturday morning, go to that seminar on
executive deportment. And ask for 360-degree feedback from bosses,
co-workers, supervisees and customers. (An easy way to get it free and
anonymously is at Checkster.com.)
Celebrate the personal strengths that unattractiveness can breed. For
instance, I find that ugly people, in general, are nicer because they
know they can't use their looks to get by and because they've
developed compassion from going through life unattractive.
Make an effort to look sharp. There are some physical attributes we
can control and some we can't. If you ignore the features that you
could enhance, it sends the message that you don't care -- a message
that may even give the wrong impression of your work. Ultimately, I
decided not to keep wearing the aforementioned hairpiece -- it
required constant maintenance, and if people knew I was wearing it,
they'd probably snicker. Instead, I groom the real hair I have left: I
comb whatever hair I have to the back, rather than to the side or
front -- efforts to the contrary are transparent and widely derided..
To be continued.. Always Check the comment box......
